All children behave in a way that will be found to be inappropriately on occasion. Country Fun Child Care’s goal in child guidance practices is for children to develop inner controls leading to self-discipline. At Country Fun Child Care each child’s importance is affirmed by working to find techniques that work best to guide their individual behavior. The partnership between provider and a child’s parents/legal guardians, supporting each other when dealing with difficult behaviors, will be of the greatest benefit to the child.
- Child guidance is a system of rules that teach children appropriate behavior and self-control.
- Guidance means knowing the rules and the consequences of not abiding by them.
- Appropriate guidance provides children with a sense of security.
Only positive methods which encourage self-control, self-direction, self-esteem and cooperation are used. Corporal punishment of any kind will not be allowed.
Consistent Routines and Limits:
- Expectations and limits are clear and consistent.
- Children will not be expected to do more than their understanding and ability allows.
- Consistent, yet flexible routines, support children knowing what to expect during their day.
- Limits are set for children based on safety, responsibility and respect.
- Natural consequences and reasonable choices are part of the information shared with children as part of learning self-control.
- Children learn that the provider will make decisions to keep them safe while in care.
Respectful, Positive Language: Children need to have their feelings listened to and respected.
- A positive tone will be used when talking with a child(ren) about behavior.
- Statements will be clear and simple. Example: “Food stays at the table” instead of “no walking around with food”.
- Children will be offered choices supporting developing independent skills when possible. Example: “Do you want to put your coat on by yourself or do you want me to help you?”
“Calm-Down Time”: When a child behaves inappropriately, is disruptive or out of control, the child is removed from the situation and allowed to calm down in a designated space, remaining in clear view of the provider.
This clear action is used to communicate to the child that they need time to calming and gain self-control, it is not a punishment.
The child remains removed from the situation as appropriate for their age and developmental level, but never more than five minutes. When able to communicate, the child will explain to the provider why they needed separation from a situation; what they could have done differently; and the feelings of all involved in the situation.
Teaching children problem solving skills at a young age will help them learn to cope with stress and get along cooperatively.
Helping children use words to express feelings will minimize physical responses to angry feelings.